In my family there is a running joke that I could use the computer before I could talk - my dad was a software engineer, and used to bring a computer home after work so that I could play. I guess you can blame him for the following decades of my IT obsession.

I am very happy that the author and many other commenting ladies have never experienced any form of discrimination. It is hugely reassuring that, with a bit of luck, one can go through quite a few years of career without even thinking about it.

My own experience, and what I hear about from my female mentees, is somewhat more varied. Personally, I have benefited from being a woman, getting onto an extra program specifically intended to keep females in more senior tech positions, giving me opportunity to attend various training courses. In vast majority of my teams, most of my team mates were great and I felt greatly respected. Many of them, having worked with me years ago, pulled me into other projects they were working on - IMO nothing tells you more that someone enjoyed working with you than this.

However. There were also situations, of varying shades of grey, where I felt anything from amusement to discomfort. A few from the top of my head for the “small things” ?

In the “bigger things” category:

Now, of course none of that is a terrible traumatic experience, thankfully sexual assault is nothing I’ve ever experienced or even been told about - but that’s not the point. These subtle, sometimes very subtle, pushbacks are the reason why females don’t end up in more senior positions nowhere near as often as men (statistically). They are a reason why we still earn less. There is research very clearly showing that women DO ask for raises - they just don’t get them (or not as big - just as my own experience was). And, most importantly, they are a reason why some slightly less confident women leave the field.

I do strongly believe that there are plenty of good teams out there - I was on many, vast majority of my colleagues were good people. The bad apples might be few - but there are still too many. And some biases are so subtle, that you may be applying them even without thinking.

And the big elephant in the room. Pregnancy/early child care often throws a massive spanner in the works. I do wonder how many of the females who don’t see a problem now will change their mind when they go out on maternity.